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Homework goals 2023-06-29-01 Our goals for homework are to practise. skills: fine motor, math, etc "Can we develop mantras? managing our feelings frustration, resistance, wanting to do other things ↓ managing our time and energy. it staying on the the same same side figuring out how to work with our brains! bodies Self-control takes years to develop. This is normal. Do I have to do it? I want to go read Preparing for big feelings Narrate, empathize, don't try to override it. Ok to hold boundaries while validating feelings. → I'm here to help her learn how to work with her feelings. you're not sure why you need to do this, and you'd rather be doing something else. If there's time it's easier when you're ready to do it. I trust you know what you're ready to do right now. If it's getting late: Part of why this is important is to practise working with your feelings. It's hard! (story) If all the homework gets done but I have to bully/pressure her into doing it, that's not what we want. When is it my turn? Why didn't she call me? It's hard to get excited about participating and then not get, an opportunity to do so. You wish.. It's nice when.... You won't always but I'm here and I see I can't. It's too hard. You feel frustrated because you're not sure if you can do it. Learning knowing not knowing (story) → not about overriding feelings, about helping her figure out ways that work Reinforce after benefits of what she's done, her agency, important contribution